Friday, November 14, 2008

Simply Magic

Do you ever get to the point in a relationship where you get too lazy, too complacent? You started to wonder where the magic went?

I was in that place recently. I was remembering when me and hubby met. How there was excitement, fireworks, passion. I wondered where did that go exactly?

That led me to wondering why is it we (collectively) become so lazy in our relationships?

Remember how it is when you first meet someone special? How you always make sure you're showered and shaved. You try to wear something decent.. not your old "comfy" clothes. You make plans together to do things together. You sit closer on the couch. There's more interest, more listening, more everything.

Hubby was that way at first. But, so was I.

As he was making the drive across the state every Friday after work, I would be getting myself all cleaned up, making sure my apartment was clean as well. I had the meals planned for the weekend. Everything else was put on hold so I could enjoy my time with him once he got there.

Eight years later we still love each other, but somewhere along the way we both got lazy.

This morning I was playing songs from the collection I have on my computer while he was playing a game on Pogo. I came across one that had has special meaning. You see, way back in the beginning, eight years ago, he sang this song to me. It was the first song he ever did sing to me.

I got a big whoosh of memory of how it used to be. Back we still acted like we were IN love instead of being in love. Before becoming lazy. All this within the first few seconds of the song.

I asked him if he would put his game on pause and sing it to me. He did. He turned his chair, wheeled himself over to my chair. He took my hands in his and sang to me. I had tears streaming down my cheeks. His eyes even got a little watery.

It was simply magic.


Erika Jean said...

aww too cute!

Berni said...

I can relate. Hubby sang me a song just after we were married just over ten years ago and I got all mushy then but I think we both would be a little embarrassed now and I can't remember the name of the song. Your post reminded me to be extra nice to him today.

Shelby said...

I simply LOVE your header picture with the snow and the trees!

peppylady (Dora) said...

I think or I know i have become lazy in my marriage.
Life is busy.

Coffee is on.

bcmomtoo said...

It really is the little things, like this song. It can't be all intense like it was at first, but I think we all could benefit from putting a little more into our relationships - enough to say 'I remember why I fell in love with you in the first place!'

Love the song! The words are so great. My husband singing to me would not be a special moment, but this song has meaning for us, too.

Eve said...

That was beautiful and brought back beautiful memories for me. I used to sing to my husband. When I visited him at the nursing home the last few months he lived there was frequently a piano player entertaining during dinner. I sang to him on those times. One of our favorite songs was "I Don't Know Why I Love You Like I Do." It was one of the last ones I ever sang to him.

I never heard "Keeper of the Stars" before, but I know Ed would have loved it - he loved all things country! I wish I could have sung it to him.

Le Butterfly said...

Thanks for sharing.

Mom Knows Everything said...

It must be me because I can't get this video to play either.

Rebecca said...

That's very sweet. I think people just get caught up in the day to day of life, new is exciting but nothing stays new for long.

I think what you and Mike have is special. You're a smart woman for recognizing it and holding on to it!! :)

Lucy said...

awww skittles this was so beautiful and so touching. it's the magic moments like this that make you know you need to keep it going even if the excitement has dyed down a bit. love it!

Forgetfulone said...

The magic does go. It's learning how to live life with someone after the magic goes, and finding it again every now and then, that is so difficult.