I was in that place recently. I was remembering when me and hubby met. How there was excitement, fireworks, passion. I wondered where did that go exactly?
That led me to wondering why is it we (collectively) become so lazy in our relationships?
Remember how it is when you first meet someone special? How you always make sure you're showered and shaved. You try to wear something decent.. not your old "comfy" clothes. You make plans together to do things together. You sit closer on the couch. There's more interest, more listening, more everything.
Hubby was that way at first. But, so was I.
As he was making the drive across the state every Friday after work, I would be getting myself all cleaned up, making sure my apartment was clean as well. I had the meals planned for the weekend. Everything else was put on hold so I could enjoy my time with him once he got there.
Eight years later we still love each other, but somewhere along the way we both got lazy.
This morning I was playing songs from the collection I have on my computer while he was playing a game on Pogo. I came across one that
I got a big whoosh of memory of how it used to be. Back we still acted like we were IN love instead of being in love. Before becoming lazy. All this within the first few seconds of the song.
I asked him if he would put his game on pause and sing it to me. He did. He turned his chair, wheeled himself over to my chair. He took my hands in his and sang to me. I had tears streaming down my cheeks. His eyes even got a little watery.
It was simply magic.