Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "Heads Or Tails #86 - Reason":Well, well, well. It seems someone has some issues. How the hell would Anonymous know what we felt? How the hell would Anonymous know how much we miss Jakob? Especially since "Anonymous" is apparently my daughter's ex boyfriend who is now Jakob's foster dad. (I may be wrong on this, but he's the only one who would write a comment from that perspective.)
That is a great picture of the kids they had a blast together. The funny thing is that you say by some mircale JAKOB got to see the family that misses him so much!!! But yet how much time did that family spend with him!!!!!!!!!!! DID GRAMDMA SPEND ANY TIME OR THE UNCLES OR EVEN MOM??????????? Would you be shocked to know the total time from ALL family members was less the 30 minutes in the entire two hours!!! Good thing they missed him???? BUT HE STILL LOVES EVERY ONE OF YOU AND CANT WAIT TO SEE YOU AGAIN ( WHEN EVER YOU DECIDE TO HE IS IMPORTANT?????????????). TO BAD FOSTER CARE IS SO BAD??????????? AND EVEN THOUGHT MOM DOSENT MAKE ALL THE VISITS IT IS NICE TO KNOW JAKOB STILL CARES AND REMEBERS EVRYONE IN HIS FAMILY AND COMES HOME TO HIS SISTER AND SOMEONE WHO DOES CARE ABOUT HIM AND DOES NOT SLEEP THROUGH VISITS OR MISS THEM SEVERAL WEEKS IN A ROW!!!!!!! AND WHO SETS A BIRTHDAY PARTY AROUND GRANDMAS SCHEDULE WHO LEAVES AFTER GETTING THERE!!!!!!! HOW CAN ANY OF YOU CALL HIM FAMILY WHEN IN 15 MONTHS NONE OF YOU CALLED OR CONTACTED HIM AT ALL????????????? HOW COULD YOU HOW DARE YOU ACT LIKE JAKOB IS THE VICTIM HE IS HAPPY AND DEALING WITH HIS OWN ISSUES!!!!!!!!
Ok "Anonymous".. let's look at my point of view.
First. Learn to fucking spell. Oh wait.. you're how old and still a cashier at Costco? My bad. I guess spelling isn't needed at such a power job as that.
Second. Yes, I left early. There were several factors that came into play. Most of my family knows why, my husband knows why. A blog friend knows why. (Smile.) I assume you DON'T know why because nobody in my family likes you.
Third. WTF? I mean seriously. WTF? Do you think nobody enjoyed watching Jakob playing and having fun with his cousins? Cousins he hasn't seen in forever??? What did you want someone to say for crying out loud? "Come here Jakob. Stop playing and having fun. Nah.. forget your cousins, people your own age. Come sit with me. We'll have a chat."
Fourth. Where in my post did I portray Jakob as a poor victim? If anything, I implied my family is deprived from seeing him. I did not say Jakob is unhappy where he is. Despite everything "Anonymous" I have consistently said you have provided a good home for him.
Fifth. After so many attempts at trying to get to see Jakob, either at your place or anywhere else, people tend to see how controlling you are and give up. Last time I asked to stop by in March you fed me a line about how it had to be approved by the state, and I know for a fact that is an outright lie.
Also.. did you get those emails I sent you asking what Jakob would like for his birthday? You never answered them.
In closing "Anonymous".. you are a chicken shit. Next time you have something to say to me say it to my face!
Note: Now that I've cooled off a bit I thought about editing some of what I said. But I think I'll leave it. Even though some of it was just nasty and uncalled for.
I was wrong to speak for my children. Whatever I said about their thoughts and feelings should come from them, not me. It's likely I was wrong in interpreting those.
Another Note: Things have been resolved in the comments.
Don't you just hate people who leave nasty comments and won't say who they are? They must be what your post title is and that is a "chicken shit". It's all part of posting things for people to have differing point of views on issues and happenings, but if they can't say who they are, what else can we think but that they are too much of a coward to let you know who they are. I also know this may piss off a few others but, this is your blog and if you're pissed, go ahead and let it out. I could go on but I'll let it stand where it is.
I have ALL sorts of things to say, but I'm tired and feeling VERY defensive, so I better watch my step.
Anonymous - I read the entire post... NO WHERE did I read that Barb was saying Jakob was mistreated. IN FACT, I've read in previous posts that she was glad that someone was taking care of him and treating him good... guess you should have read those posts before you went and royally stuck your foot in your anonymous mouth.
This is coming from someone who saw her parents every once in a while as a child - yeah, it was all great to see them... but I was a kid - I wanted to play with other kids, and that's when I had fun. One look at the pictures and you can see that Jakob is having an absolute blast with his cousins. Oh sorry - I was wrong - that huge laughing smile is the sure sign of a kid having an absolutely miserable time.
Listen - I'm glad that Jakob is being taken care of, but I am now concerned, because I was hoping that he was being taken care of by someone with the maturity of an adult, which is obviously lacking here, and that concerns me.
Anyway - I'm too tired to type much more, because I'm losing patience fast, and I don't want to say something I'll regret.
Gosh I could hardly understand what Anonymous is saying BECAUSE HE IS TALKING LIKE THIS OMG IT GIVES ME SUCH A HEADACHE.
The would be my typical response "What a DOUCHE" lol
and You go girl!!!!!! Let it out, don't hold anything back!!!
O K its seems like i went overbored with my rantings and letting out my frustrations i am sorry. I was wrong and should have keep my comments to myself I started typeing and it all just came out and didnt even realy have much to do with the party. It was upsetting that since these events realy happen that all those who miss him so bad did not spend one on one time with jakob but everyone was happy to see him and yes he did have a great time and enjoy seeing everyone and it would be nice to do it again. Sorry for leaveing my frustrations on your post and yes am a crappy speller and even if im a controll freak and the biggest a-hole in the world and just a cashier and no one likes me that should not stop anyone from keeping in contact with jakob. And again i dont have email anymore it was deleted will let you know when I get a new one.
Well chicken shit may have pissed you off, it would have pissed me off too, but he's apologised, I hope that means you can both move on. x
I'd be very upset too if someone left comments like that under the Anonymous cover. But, in his defense too, I see he did come forward and apologize as well as explain a little more why he was that upset. Perhaps he is a bit of a control freak but maybe too it's time other reach out to him as well. Whether there were bad feelings or not, if he is raising the boy, doing right by him, then maybe try to call the guy to check in, see if there are any ways that he can be given a bit of a helping hand too. Is he married or is he raising the boy alone? I dunno there -I can fully understand that Jacob would probably much rather spend his time playing with the other children than having to talk just with a bunch of boring old adults. And, most adults probably would get just as much enjoyment out of seeing the happy faces on the kids, playing, getting reacquainted with each other too. Sounds to me like maybe a good cleansing talk to explain fully what's going on across both sides of the fence -the full logistics of all concerned and then, try to start from a slightly cleaned off slate perhaps.
I think taking pot shots at his job is kind of low. The guy is working providing for his family. Who cares if it is a cashier, a garbage man or a doctor. He's trying and doing what he needs to do. Is Jacob's other parents doing the same?
Spelling has nothing to do with a persons intelligence. We all have strengths and weaknesses.
This was obviously an emotional comment and he obviously loves Jacob. I think the best approach would of been a handwritten letter explaining your side of the story. With the 24 hour rule. You mail it after re-reading it 24 hours after writing it. Hopefully, making edits. Only Jacob is going to be hurt by a pissing contest.
I accept your apology Anonymous.
I apologize for being so nasty and low in my remarks. I admitted already I was wrong at making some of them. As for the rest..? Well, I'm very protective of my family. I think you know that by now.
I may be wrong but I think you've thought that a good thing now and then. You know how I've stood up for Jakob and what I think is best for him. That includes him being with YOU.
Now then. The other people who commented here certainly have a right to their own opinions on this matter. (Although I do wonder about the reason one of them comments only when there is controversy.)
I believe it was your apparently sincere apology that changed the tone of the comments that came AFTER your apology. We may all just be "online" friends, but the friendships are just as strong as "real life" ones.
I am ready to move on. I wish you well on Thursday. But, you already know that, right? I know I've talked with you about this and explained my stance, which was favorable.
On another subject.. thanks for visiting me blog. ;)
It was text messages I sent. Not email. I wanted to clear that up..
Well, I must say that it took maturity to come back and apologize. So, you have proved to me what Barb has already told me several times - you are good for and good to Jakob. For that, I thank you - from what I know of him, he is a fantastic and loving child, and I'm glad you are there for him.
Thanks for proving me wrong about the maturity comment - and thank you for what you have done for Jakob.
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